Trebuie si actul sexual

xsexDin ce in ce mai interesanti si mai liberi in experimentari? Experimentari in care toti avem de castigat si personal, si in relatie cu partenerul? Exista reguli chiar peste tot? Cine a inventat regulile si cine le stabileste? Cand ajung si eu sa-mi impun propriile mele reguli?

Reactia (reactanta) la TREBUIE!
Pentru barbati si femei deopotriva?!Am nevoie de reguli pentru a ma simti in control?Regulile ma fac sa ma simt in siguranta in relatia cu celalalt?Din ce nevoie se nasc ele?Pentru in pat cu mine insami sau pentru barbati in pat cu o femeie sau pentru femei in pat cu un barbat?  Nimeni nu pare a sti decat ceea ce a avut si are efect in intimitate cu el si cu celalalt. Micile noastre secrete…atuuri…
De cand ne stim femei sau barbati, auzim mai mereu in jurul nostru: “Femeile sunt mai sensibile, siropoase, dependente de romantism si iubesc barbatii cu accent strain!”Si intreb, va intreb: “Ce ar trebui sa faca barbatul in fata unei astfel de formulari?” :)cand in cealalta extrema se regasesc femeile care nu au auzit decat “avertismente” de tipul: “Barbatii sunt atrasi doar de femei cu sanii mari, fermi si apetisanti” etc.
Concluzia?In procesul devenirii de sine ca barbat sau ca femeie, fiecare dintre noi ne trezim bombardati de astfel de remarci ce se doresc adevarul absolut. Odata ajunsi in fata faptului implinit (adica barbat si femeie, fata in fata), descoperim ca suntem pregatiti pentru celalalt dar nu indeajuns si pentru noi sau invers.Ce am vrut sa spun prin asta?Faptul ca uneori ni se intampla sa fim luati prin surprindere de catre celalalt (cand tocmai am rasuflat usurati ca le stim pe toate) sau ne trezim “total” nepregatiti in fata propriilor noastre trairi, inimi.Cati dintre noi au avut surpriza sa se simta “intimidati” de hotararea, determinismul partenerului? De sexualitatea acestuia debordanta?!Sau cati dintre noi am ramas surprinsi de ceea ce s-a trezit sau se trezeste in noi in prezenta persoanei iubite?!Acele impulsuri, furnicaturi?! Acea eterna stare de beatitudine ce te determina adesea sa pierzi notiunea timpului sau sa renunti la propriile inhibitii, limite odata candva formulate?!De fapt ce se intampla?In primul caz uitam pur si simplu ca ceea ce se trezeste in celalalt are ca si obiect de atractie, stimulare si intretinere as putea spune, o imagine (suprapusa, expresie a nevoilor si fanteziilor persoanei in cauza).
Ei bine, acea imagine ne apartine chiar noua!!!? Noi constituim obiectul deasupra caruia se formeaza imaginea ce alimenteaza dorintele, fanteziile celuilalt.In acest caz imaginea este produsul subiectiv al partenerului care se intampla uneori a fi mai mult sau mai putin impregnat de nevoile, dorintele, fanteziile acestuia din urma. Si astfel pot aparea surprize!Cerandu-i partenerului sau partenerei sa te descrie, sa-ti spuna ce anume (l-) a determinat-o sa te iubeasca, sa ai surpriza ca raspunsul sa fie departe de ceea ce ai tu ca si reprezentare de sine.De aceea se intampla sa fim iubiti din variate “motive” uneori greu de definit si de inteles pentru noi.Ceea ce este de preferat este sa ne eliberam de sheme, grafice, puncte de referinte si sa ne permitem de a fi deschisi, permeabili la dragostea oferita de celalalt, in acelasi timp sa daruim neconditionat ce dintotdeauna ne-am dorit si imaginat: Marea iubire!girls.jpg
Astfel sexul devine o placere, un prilej de sarbatorire  in care goliciunea corporala si cea sufleteasca nu ne mai sperie, ci ne bucura si ne face sa ne dorim din ce in ce mai mult de la noi si de la celalalt.Teama, frica de abandon, neincrederea, incapacitatea pe care unii dintre noi o incercam in a ne bucura neconditionat de o astfel de experienta etc. sunt doar o parte a umbrelor ce se descriu intr-o viata de cuplu armonioasa.In momentul in care incepem sa fim sinceri cu noi, descoperindu-ne punctele fierbinti de rezistenta si incepem a le lucra ca fiind parte din noi ce poate fi rezolvata, nu parti care se nasc din vina celuilalt, pot spune ca suntem pe calea cea buna.A ne elibera de reguli, scheme, scenarii, tehnici inseamna a trai cu adevarat experienta comuniunii cu celalalt. Astfel jocul devine, dar ca si cuplu.In sex, poate fi doar unul si celalalt prin apropiere  sau pot fi doi!

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Sex Journal

Aug 25 | Onlinedrsex | Tags: None

1. Start a Sex Journal
Growing up, you may have received some negative messages about sex along the way. Now is the time to move beyond those old beliefs and embrace the fact that you are a grown woman who doesn’t have to carry the beliefs of those who raised you.

Start by writing down the negative messages you received growing up or the messages you picked up from your parents’ relationships. When you are ready to let them go, you can cross them out, rip out the page—anything that will symbolize letting go to you.

Then, take a moment to document the situations where these moments came up in your life. This way, you’ll become more conscious of when old messages surface.

When those messages do pop in your head, it’s important to replace them with positive thoughts. So go ahead and create a new sexual mantra! Here are a few to get you started:

  • This is good.
  • I am entitled to sexual pleasure.
  • I am a sensual, sexual woman.
  • I’m allowed to feel this.
  • This is good for my body.
  • This is good for my soul.
  • This is good for my relationship.
  • I am entitled to a healthy, happy sex life.
  • I deserve pleasure, and receiving pleasure is a loving act.
  • I am sexy and beautiful.
  • A good sex life is good for me and good for my body.
  • Sex is about expressing my love and connection to the person I love.
  • Loving myself and touching myself is good and healthy for me.
  • I embrace my body and my sexuality.
  • Experiencing pleasure is an important part of my quality of life.
  • By loving myself I am better able to love my partner.
  • Receiving pleasure is as important as giving pleasure.
  • Loving my sexuality is loving myself,
  • Sex is the most sacred gift I can share with myself and someone I love.
  • I am a sensual, loving woman who can experience deep pleasure.
  • I open myself to pleasure.
  • I am safe and in control. It’s OK to let go.

2. Become More Comfortable with Your Sexuality
Go ahead and say it, “I am a vixen!” Whether it’s taking a pole dancing class or just dancing at home by yourself, find activities that make you feel sexy and playful.

3. Try Something New
Whether it’s a new position or a sex toy, try mixing things up a bit. Sex toys can also help you achieve orgasm if you’re having trouble. Not sure which product is right for you? Take the quiz!

ep 4 to Your Best Sex Life

Think your lack of sex drive is all in your head? Sometimes, a sagging sex life could be a sign of something more serious. Dr. Berman explains why your medicine cabinet could be dragging down your sex drive.

There could be perfectly natural reasons for a sudden change in sexual function—how you feel about your relationship, body or emotions. Or it could be related to anxiety or depression.

However, it could be something more serious that demands medical attention. “Don’t rule out the physical when you’re looking at your whole sexual equation,” Dr. Berman says.

Your doctor should consider several clinical causes for your reduced sex drive.

If it is caused by a hormonal imbalance, one possible solution is medication including minimally absorbed topical estrogen.

Another common cause is side effects from medication. Dr. Berman says some medications that could effect sexual function include: hormonal contraceptives, antihistamines that cause dryness, antidepressants, antihypertensives like beta blockers or diuretics and anti-cancer drugs.

“So you really want to talk to your doctor if you’re having symptoms of dryness, difficulty responding, problems with genital sensation [or] difficulty reaching orgasms,” Dr. Berman says.

Step 5 to Your Best Sex Life

With work, kids, bills and other daily stressors, it’s easy to see how sex can slip off your relationship radar. Reignite your passion with three simple steps. Dr. Berman explains why date night could be the highlight of your week.

1. Commit to Sex at Least Once a Week
While putting sex on your weekly to-do list might seem like one of the least romantic things ever, Dr. Berman says it could be the key to reviving your intimacy. “It feels unromantic at first [to schedule sex] because we have the misconception that sex is supposed to happen spontaneously, which it does in the beginning of the relationship when your dopamine centers of the brain are firing and everything’s new and you can’t get enough of each other,” Dr. Berman says. “But that doesn’t work in a long-term relationship. If you wait for it to happen spontaneously, you’re going to be waiting forever.”

2. Create a Bedroom Retreat
Bedrooms are for two things only—sex and sleep. “So cover the TV if you’re not willing to take it out of the room. … Put a nice tapestry or something over it. Ideally, TV out of the room, computer out of the room, pictures of Grandma out of the room. Make it into a sensual, sexual haven.”

3. Put It in Writing!

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